I am sure ya'll have found yourselves in uncomfortable situations. A situation where your boss or an older person demeans you. That would happen in the 1980s and '90s because people lived in fear. Children were punished and put into situations as if it were the end of the world. Earlier generations were taught to submit and never question anything, but Gen Z cannot accept such nonsense. The millennials went through the same torment, but they are slowly coming out of it. Here are several psychology hacks that can help you put someone who is demeaning you into his/her own place. Dark psychology has for a long time been used by narcissists, but you can also use it for your own benefit. Without considering gaslighting, exploitation, guilt-tripping, and backstabbing, you can wittingly employ paltering, manipulation, triangulation and love bombing to have your way.
Consider the following eleven ways that dark psychology can be useful and help you survive in a toxic work environment.
1. If your boss or supervisor is being mean to you, and constantly harasses you at your workstation, you can hit them up with, " Excuse me, you have something in your teeth," when asked to make a comment after he/she is done lecturing you. This will make them feel awkward and might stop them from being mean.
2. Sometimes saying no directly will make you a target, so you need to master the art of sandwiching your nay between two positives. A marinated nay would be, "I love that you have considered me for this assignment, but I might not meet the deadline."
3. Be ambiguous: Corporate environments thrive on clarity, but sometimes ambiguity can be your shield.
4. If you can make people laugh, they will find you 88% more attractive.
5. If you act really happy and excited to see others, they will usually respond the same way.
6. When you need a favour, start with "I need your help..." This makes the other person feel important, and they’ll be more likely to help you.
7. Pay sh!t for sh!t. This is my best principle. Never let anyone put you in a position of being at their mercy. If you need a service from them, and they keep taking you around, let them be and seek the same service from somebody else. I needed some legal services and sought them from a lawyer "friend" whom we schooled with in high school. After paying this dude some fee, he started acting like he was doing me a favour. That is when I invoked it and blocked him.
8. If you see two people fighting, observe the fight while making sense of what they’re fighting about and walk away.
9. If you are kind to them, they will never be kind to you.
10. Humans are animals, capable of so many behaviours. So be an animal like the other animals.
11. Do not be quick to apologise.
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