Ever heard people say that life is spiritual? I have a somewhat crazy perspective when it comes to such. There is this inner voice that always talks to you when you are alone. Never underrate that voice because the most powerful voice shaping your life is not the one coming from society, family, or circumstances; it is the one inside your head. How you think about yourself quietly determines how you act, what you attempt, what you tolerate, and ultimately what you become.
The Cost of Thinking Negatively About Yourself
Having stayed by myself in most parts of my adult life, I have come to realise that negative talk impacts one's life. Studies have shown that people who constantly think negatively about themselves often do so unconsciously. Their inner dialogue is filled with phrases that do not build them but rather destroy them. Phrases like “I’m not good enough,” “I always mess things up,” “People are better than me,” or “I don’t deserve more” will, over time, become one's identity. When you continuously speak ill of yourself, your standards are lowered, expectations diminished, and your self-esteem, which influences your swiftness to grab opportunities get damaged, and you end up tolerating poor treatment from people because you have wired yourself to think that you deserve less. Even though setbacks are normal in life, when you face them, you end up interpreting them as proof of inadequacy rather than a step towards growth.
Days become longer, and work and social places become hell. You end up limiting yourself halt your chance to exploit your full potential. Negative thinking doesn’t just affect mood; it shapes behavior. You will avoid risks, act cautiously, and quit early. These three traits characterize failures in life. Their failures are usually strongly attributed to the negative thoughts they keep feeding their minds. You will hear your friends and colleagues talk about high-risk investments, but you will decide to play it safe with your finances.
Understand that self-talk shapes your identity. What becomes familiar starts to feel true. Over time, thoughts harden into beliefs, and beliefs guide decisions. Do you have a project that you have started, like a postgraduate degree, but have been stuck on for more than five years after the coursework? Think of what you always tell yourself every time you regain the energy to embark on it. What about that house? The one that you started building in 2020 during the Covid-19 pandemic, but have never finished it to date, not because of finances, but because you feel like you wasted resources. The talk of people about a house in shagz (rural home) being a dead capital has been cemented in your brain, and it is part of you now. The energy that drove you to do it is washed, and it is now marred with negative enchantments; I need to build another one; this house is not what I intended for my family.
If you constantly speak of negative things about your life, you end up not taking responsibility for correcting your mistakes. For instance, a lady who keeps on saying, "I am ugly," will never see how beautiful she is. If you keep on saying, "I am bad with money," the truth is, you will never learn financial discipline. So instead of these negative talks, learn to confess positive things about yourself. A comment like, "I am improving," will motivate you to persist in doing that which will help you overcome your weakness and achieve your set goal.
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